DOORS CLOSE NOVEMBER 18, 2025 ✹ THE ART OF GOING SLOW ✹ 4-WEEK LIVE PROGRAM WITH SABRINA ZOHAR
You know exactly why your last three relationships fell apart—but you can’t stop doing it again
For people who’ve done the work, read the books, spent years trying to fix this..
And still watch themselves speed-run straight into another 8-week burnout relationship
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You know what you’re doing wrong...
You can see the patterns. You understand why you do it. You’ve spent hours talking about it, journaling about it, analyzing it with your friends over wine.
And yet. Three months ago, you met someone at a coffee shop. Good conversation. Chemistry.
They asked for your number.
By date two, you were texting them good morning.
By week three, you’d canceled plans with your best friend twice because they asked if you were free.
By week eight, they said they needed space. Or it fizzled. Or you realized you had no idea who this person actually was.
By week five, you were checking your phone forty-seven times a day and couldn’t remember the last time you went to that pottery class you signed up for in January.
By week eight, they said they needed space. Or it fizzled. Or you realized you had no idea who this person actually was underneath all the intensity.
And here’s what makes it worse: you saw it happening.
You watched yourself do every single thing you swore you wouldn’t do this time.
You felt your chest tighten when they didn’t text back within an hour.
You knew you were over-functioning when you planned the fourth date in a row.
You recognized the moment you started checking their responses to calm yourself down instead of, you know, actually handling your feelings on your own.
But knowing didn’t stop it.
Because here’s what no one tells you: understanding what you’re doing wrong means absolutely nothing when you’re in the middle of doing it.
When you meet someone you actually like, your brain shuts off.
Understanding what you’re doing wrong means absolutely nothing when you’re in the middle of doing it.
The part that remembers you have boundaries and a life and friends? Gone.
And suddenly you’re not making conscious choices. You’re just reacting, trying to pass as a functional adult on a date while internally freaking out.
You’re not choosing to text first again. Your entire body is screaming that slow equals abandonment, and it’s demanding you do something RIGHT NOW to make this person stay.
You’re not intentionally losing yourself in the relationship. You learned a long time ago that becoming whatever someone needs is how you keep them from leaving.
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This isn’t a discipline problem.
This isn’t because you don’t love yourself enough.
This is a body problem.
Your body goes into panic mode when you like someone.
And you can’t think your way out of panic.
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And here’s what this cycle is costing you…
01
Time is passing
If you’re someone who wants marriage, kids, a life partner—you’re watching years disappear into these repetitive three-month situations. You’re 32, 35, 38, 41, and every failed relationship feels like time you can’t get back. The urgency makes the anxiety worse, which makes you rush more, which makes relationships fail faster. You’re trapped in a timeline that’s working against you.
02
You’re exhausted
Not sleepy-tired. Bone-deep exhausted from managing your anxiety every single day. From the chest tightness when you wake up and check your phone. From the mental gymnastics of analyzing every text. From pretending you’re calm and confident when internally you’re a smoke detector screaming. Coming home after dates and immediately texting your friends “ok so they said this, what does that MEAN”.
03
The shame is crushing
You’re a functional human in every other area of your life. You have a career. You pay your bills. You’re the friend people come to for advice. But in dating, you become someone you don’t recognize. And after every failed relationship, you have to explain to your friends—again—why it didn’t work out. Again. Even though they saw it coming. Even though you saw it coming. The embarrassment of being smart enough to know better but not able to do better is eating you alive.
04
You’re attracted to the wrong people
The emotionally available, secure people feel boring. The avoidant, inconsistent, “I don’t do labels” people feel like home. Because you learned that love requires anxiety and pursuit and constant proof. So the people who would actually be good for you don’t create the chemical reaction your body associates with connection. And the people who trigger you the hardest feel like soulmates.
05
You can’t tell if it’s your anxiety or if it’s real
When something feels off, you don’t know if you should trust it or if you’re just being “crazy” again. Are they actually pulling away or is that your abandonment wound? Are these red flags or are you self-sabotaging something good? Should you walk away or are you just too damaged for relationships? You’ve lost access to your own intuition because anxiety has hijacked the signal.
06
You’re starting to believe you’re broken
When everyone around you seems to date normally—meeting someone, taking it slow, building something over months without losing their minds—you wonder what’s wrong with YOU. Other people can apparently go on a date and then... just wait for the person to text? Without spiraling? Without checking their phone every four minutes? Without a full-blown anxiety attack? How?
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And the worst part? You’re not getting what you actually want.
You don’t want to be this person.
You want to meet someone and build something real—slowly, intentionally, while staying yourself.
You want to go on dates without performing or managing panic attacks.
You want to have the hard conversations without your heart trying to exit your body.
You want to reach six months, a year, and not have the relationship implode because you built it on anxiety instead of actual compatibility.
You want to be secure.
Not fake-it-till-you-make-it secure.
Not performing boundaries while internally dying.
Actually secure.
The kind of security where you can go three hours without checking your phone and your body doesn’t interpret it as an emergency.
But you don’t know how to get there from here.
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This becomes possible when your body learns that slow doesn’t equal danger…
The beginning
You meet someone. Good conversation. Chemistry. They ask for your number. Your chest flutters—but it doesn’t seize.
They text you the next day. You see the notification. You smile. You finish what you’re doing. Thirty minutes later, you respond.
Not because you’re playing games. Because you didn’t need to drop everything to answer.
Week 2
They ask you out for Thursday. You check your calendar. You already have plans that night—your standing dinner with your best friend. You don’t even consider canceling.
You text back: “I have plans Thursday, but I’d love to. How about Saturday?”
Date two happens. It’s lovely. You’re actually present instead of performing or managing anxiety. When there’s a moment of silence, you don’t rush to fill it. You just... sit there. It’s fine.
Week 3
Over the next few weeks, you see each other once or twice a week. They initiate some plans. You initiate some plans.
It’s roughly equal. You notice this—you’re not doing all the work—and instead of that making you panic (”they must not be that interested”), you feel... good.
Like you’re building something mutual.
Week 6
After date six, they ask if you want to come over and watch a movie. Your body floods with anticipation. You want to. You also know what you need to feel safe moving things forward.
You say: “I’d love to. Can we talk for a second first? I just want to make sure we’re on the same page about what this means and where this is going.”
They don’t run. They say, “Yeah, of course. What’s on your mind?”
Week 10
You’re at a point where you want exclusivity. You’re nervous, but you’ve practiced the script.
You bring it up after a good date: “I’ve been really enjoying getting to know you. I wanted to check in—are you seeing other people?”
They say no, they’re not.
You say: “I’m not either. I’d like us to be exclusive—not seeing other people. How do you feel about that?”
They say they’d like that too.
Month 4
You’re still yourself. You still have your own life. Your friends haven’t commented that you’ve disappeared.
You’re still going to your hobbies. You’re still keeping your non-negotiables.
But also: you’re building something real.
Month 6
You look back at the beginning and realize: this didn’t burn out.
It built. It’s still building. And here’s what’s different from every other time:
You’re not anxious all the time (sure, you have moments, but you have tools now)
You didn’t lose yourself (you’re still you, with friends and hobbies and boundaries intact)
You trust yourself (when something feels off, you can tell if it’s your wound or actual information)
You built this slowly (you took time to actually know this person before committing)
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This is what secure dating looks like
And it’s not something you’re born with—it’s something you build through specific practices over time.
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Falling fast feels real—but your brain tells a different story
Because here’s what the science actually tells us:
Your decision-making capacity drops when you’re romantically interested in someone
The part of your brain responsible for rational judgment the prefrontal cortex temporarily goes offline during early romantic attraction.
The same reward pathways that drive motivation and craving light up instead, making it easy to idealize someone before you truly know them.
Slow relationships really are proven to last longer than others
Couples who move deliberately give their brains time to transition from early-stage chemistry to lasting connection.
Those who pace their relationships slowly show higher satisfaction, stronger emotional stability, and greater longevity than couples who rush through the initial infatuation phase.
It takes more time than you’d think, not just weeks, to build real attachment
For roughly the first 3–4 weeks, your brain is dominated by dopamine, norepinephrine, and cortisol chemicals that heighten focus, excitement, and stress.
Oxytocin and vasopressin, which create long-term trust and bonding, only strengthen gradually through repeated closeness and emotional safety.
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INTRODUCING
The Art Of Going Slow
A 4-week intensive live program that gives you the complete framework, regulation tools, and concrete boundaries to pace early dating without losing your mind—or yourself.
NOT THIS
Another course explaining what your patterns are (You already know)
NOT THIS EITHER
Vague advice about “boundaries” and “self-love” (You’ve heard it all)
THIS
How to do this in the moment, with exact scripts for the hard conversations and specific boundaries for every situation
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I’m Sabrina Zohar, and I once sent 173 consecutive texts to someone trying to break up with me. I’m not proud of it, but rock bottom is an excellent teacher.
Now I help people stop dating like they’re trying to win the emotional hunger games and start building relationships that actually feel good.
Most programs focus on healing your core wound. And yes, do that work. But that’s not why you can’t go slow.
You need to train your body to recognize that space between dates isn’t abandonment.
That waiting two hours to respond to a text won’t kill you.
That maintaining your own life doesn’t mean you don’t care.
You need to build security the same way you build any skill: through consistent practice of specific behaviors until they become automatic.
Here’s exactly what happens in our four weeks together
Build a slow burn foundation
The neuroscience of dating anxiety (what’s actually happening when you’re staring at your phone)
The three zones that embody that panic and how to turn down your body’s natural alarm system
Your specific dating patterns and why YOUR body can’t go slow
The bonding timeline: why committing before 3 months is committing to a stranger
The daily balance routine (we practice together on the call)
Week 01
Confident communication
Why you over-communicate (and what it costs)
The science of why you can’t stop checking your phone
How to avoid giving too much energy to people
What to share and when to share it (how to tell if you’re oversharing or trauma-dumping)
Date frequency, how to decide how often to see them
Social media boundaries
Week 02
Managing milestone moments
The 5-question physical intimacy self check-in BEFORE clothes come off (no ridiculous “wait this amount of time” advice—this is about whenever you feel ready)
Having the three milestone conversations (what are you looking for, exclusivity, defining the relationship) with exact scripts
Readiness checklists for each conversation
Love bombing, breadcrumbing, and other red flags
When to stay vs when to walk away
Week 03
Staying yourself while dating
Why you sacrifice yourself for “love”
Creating your non-negotiables list to protect the things in your life that give value but get forgotten while dating
How to ask for what you need with scripts and what to do depending on their reply
Handling conflict without collapse and how to repair
Anxiety vs intuition: how to tell which one you’re feeling
The stay/go assessment and 30-day rule
Week 04
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After four weeks, you have the complete system. And you’ve practiced it enough that your body is starting to believe slow doesn’t equal danger.
You Could Try
What You Get
What You Don’t Get
Keep doing therapy alone
($7,800-10,400/year at $150-200/session)
Deep wound processing
Understanding the why
Professional support
Tools to use in the moment
Specific dating frameworks
When to have which conversation
How to regulate before texting
Buy more books
($100+ for a shelf full)
Intellectual understanding
Theory and concepts
General advice
5-minute protocol when you want to double-text
Scripts you can practice out loud
Worksheets tracking your patterns
Live coaching in real situations
Try “just being more confident”
(Free, but costs you years)
Nothing, because this doesn’t address the actual problem
Everything. This advice assumes it’s about thoughts when it’s about body capacity
Wing it and hope next time is different
($500+ per failed 3-month relationship)
Another heartbreak
More time lost
Same patterns repeated
Any actual change
Tools to interrupt the cycle
Framework to follow
THIS PROGRAM
($397 one-time)
Daily regulation practices that build capacity
Specific frameworks for every dating situation
Exact scripts for hard conversations
Live coaching applying to real scenarios
Complete map for the progression
Accountability
You get everything you need to date differently
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What’s the cost of one more 8-week burnout relationship?
What’s the cost of another year in this cycle? What’s the cost of looking back at 38, 41, 44 and realizing you spent years understanding the problem without building the solution?
Your investment for The Art of Going Slow?
Here’s everything you get:
4 Live Teaching Calls
Week 1: Build A Slow Burn Foundation
Week 2: Confident Communication
Week 3: Managing Milestone Moments
Week 4: Staying Yourself While Dating
Can’t attend live? Recording available Lifetime access to all recordings
Value: $800
15+ Comprehensive Worksheets
Anxiety Trigger Map
Pattern Interrupt Menu
Texting Boundaries Contract
Physical Intimacy Self Check In
Conversation Scripts
Milestone Timeline
Vetting Checklist
Non-Negotiables
Stay/Go Assessment
And so many more
Value: $400
Daily Regulation Practices
Morning routine
Midday routine
Evening routine
Printable tracking sheets
Value: 300
Live Hot Seat Coaching
Weeks 2 & 3: we’ll address specific situations live
See frameworks applied in real-time
Practice scripts during calls
Value: 400
Community of Likeminded People
Share wins and struggles
Get feedback on communication patterns
Find accountability partners
Value: 200
Lifetime Access
Own all materials forever
Re-watch, re-reference, re-use
Value: Priceless
Total Value: $2,100
Your Investment: $397
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Let’s put this in perspective
One year of therapy | $7,800-10,400
One failed 3-month relationship | $500+ (dates, time, emotional energy)
Relationship books you’ve bought | $100+
This complete system | $397
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Ready to get into the right relationship fast by learning to go slow?
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The Art of Going Slow is a live program with weekly group calls. It won’t be available again until sometime in 2026—and it will never be this affordable again.
November 20 - December 18, 2025
Live call schedule
Week 1
November 20, 8 AM PT / 11 AM ET
Break for Thanksgiving
Week 2
December 4, 8 AM PT / 11 AM ET
Week 3
December 11, 8 AM PT / 11 AM ET
Week 4
December 18, 8 AM PT / 11 AM ET
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Why did I create The Art Of Going Slow?
I’m Sabrina Zohar, and I teach people how to actually implement secure dating patterns—not just understand them intellectually.
I specialize in the intersection of how your body responds to dating, how your early experiences shape your patterns, and the very specific challenge of early dating when you’re prone to rushing everything.
I work primarily with people who’ve already done years of work, already know their patterns, and are frustrated that knowledge hasn’t translated to behavior change.
I watched client after client say “I understand everything, I’ve been working on this for years, why can’t I stop doing this?” And I realized: they didn’t need more insight. They needed implementation support. They needed the actual tools to use in the moment, the specific words to say in hard conversations, the daily practices that build capacity over time.
I’ve worked with hundreds of people who’ve gone on to build secure relationships—not because they healed their core wound completely (no one is ever perfectly healed!), but because they built the skills to date securely while the healing continues.
This program is the distillation of years of what actually works. Not just theory. Not just concepts. The specific practices, boundaries, scripts, and frameworks that change behavior.
Are you ready?
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How to know if you’re a perfect match for The Art Of Going Slow
This is for you if:
You’ve already started to do the work—you’re not new to personal development, maybe you’ve even been in therapy, or already understand your patterns. The problem isn’t that you don’t know what’s wrong. The problem is you can’t stop doing it when it matters.
You recognize yourself in every painful detail on this page—the chest tightness, losing your life for someone within three weeks, the shame of knowing better but not doing better. If you read that and thought “is Sabrina in my head?”, this is for you.
You’re willing to do daily practices for four weeks—this isn’t passive consumption. This requires 15 minutes a day of work, completing worksheets, using tools when you’re activated. If you want results, you have to do the work.
You’re ready to date differently even if it feels uncomfortable—going slow will feel wrong at first. Your body will scream. You’ll want to text immediately but you’ll have to wait. If you’re willing to tolerate discomfort to build new patterns, this works.
You’re dating or planning to date within 6 months—these tools work best when actively applied. If you want to date differently starting now or soon, this is perfect timing.
You want a complete system, not piecemeal advice—you’re tired of collecting tips from random sources. You want someone to tell you exactly how to decide how often to see someone, how to know when it’s the right time for you to bring up the exclusivity conversation, exactly what to do when spiraling at 11pm. You want the full map.
This is not for you if:
You’ve never examined your relationship patterns or done any personal work. If you’ve never looked at why you do what you do, start with basic awareness work first.
You’re looking for validation that rushing is fine or hacks to make someone commit faster—this is the wrong program. Everything here is built on the premise that slow is necessary to get into the right relationship for you, fast.
You want someone to fix you without doing anything—if you expect to watch four videos and magically be different, this won’t deliver. This requires daily practice and uncomfortable new behaviors.
You’re in crisis or acute mental health emergency—this program supports people struggling with dating patterns, not behavior that could be dangerous to yourself or others. If you’re in crisis, please prioritize getting the healthcare you need before anything else.
You want someone to tell you if a specific person is right for you—I can teach you how to vet and decide. But I can’t tell you whether to stay with your current partner. That’s your decision.
You’re looking for a quick fix or shortcut—there isn’t one. Building capacity takes consistent practice over time. If you’re not willing to put in four weeks of work, this isn’t for you.
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I know you’ve got questions, here are some of the answers…
What if I’m not currently dating anyone?
Perfect timing, actually. You’ll learn all the tools, complete all worksheets, and build your capacity before you’re in an actual dating situation. Then when you meet someone, you’ll implement from date one instead of trying to course-correct after losing your boundaries. Many people prefer doing this while single because they can focus completely on practices without the distraction of someone they’re anxious about.
What if I’m currently in a relationship?
You can still apply these tools. Weeks 1-2 (regulation and communication) will help in your current relationship. Weeks 3-4 will help you assess whether the relationship is healthy and make decisions. Some tools (like milestone conversations) may not apply if you’re already past those points, but most content—regulation, boundaries, expressing needs, distinguishing anxiety from intuition—is relevant regardless of stage.
What if I can’t attend the live calls?
Not a problem. Every call is recorded and uploaded. You have lifetime access. Many people watch recordings because of time zones or schedule conflicts.
Do I need to be in therapy to do this program?
No, but it’s recommended if you’re working on deeper trauma. This program teaches practical dating skills and body regulation. Therapy processes the underlying wound. They work beautifully together but neither is a requirement for the other.
How much time does this require per week?
45-minute live call (or watch recording)
15 minutes per day for daily practices (105 min/week)
30-45 minutes to complete that week’s worksheets
Optional: engagement with others in the program
Total: approximately 3-4 hours per week. If you “don’t have time” for this, you definitely don’t have time for the 10+ hours per week you’re currently spending analyzing texts and processing failed relationships.
What if I don’t find an accountability partner?
The program facilitates matching during Week 1, but it’s optional. You can complete this without one. The partnership just increases success rates because you have someone checking in on your boundaries.
What happens after the 4 weeks?
You own all materials forever. Re-watch calls, reference worksheets, use tools indefinitely. Some people go through the program again 6 months later when dating someone new. Others keep their Going Slow Playbook handy and reference as needed.
What if the person I’m dating doesn’t understand this approach?
Secure people appreciate when you have boundaries and pace intentionally. They won’t be confused by you maintaining your own life or wanting direct conversations. People who are put off by your boundaries are showing you exactly why you need them. You don’t need to explain “I’m in a program” to dates. You just implement the boundaries and scripts.
What if I have more questions about joining the program?
Email [email protected]. Someone on my team will get back to you.
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At this point, it comes down to this…
You Can:
Keep trying to figure this out on your own
Read another book
Have another therapy session processing why you do this
Meet someone new in three months and hope this time is different
Three months from now: Processing another failed relationship
Six months from now: Starting the cycle over
A year from now: Still stuck in the same loop
Or
You Can:
Acknowledge what you already know:
Insight without implementation doesn’t change anything
Four weeks from now: You have new tools that work
Three months from now: You’re dating someone without losing yourself
Six months from now: You’ve built something that didn’t burn out
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You’ve spent years understanding your patterns. You can trace it back to specific moments, specific dynamics. You know why you text back instantly. You know why you lose yourself. You know why you’re attracted to people who can’t meet you.
But knowing why hasn’t stopped you from doing it again. And again. And again.
You’re not failing at dating because you’re not meeting the “right” people. You’re failing because your body doesn’t have the capacity to tolerate going slow yet.
Rushing feels safer, even though it’s the opposite.
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Discover how to savor the slow burn with this support…
Daily practices that build your body’s capacity to tolerate discomfort (15 min/day, four weeks)
Specific boundaries for every aspect of early dating—not vague advice but exact frameworks
Scripts for every hard conversation so you’re not making up words in the moment
A complete map for the entire early dating progression
Live coaching where you watch these tools applied to real situations
A community doing the same work so you’re not alone at 11pm wanting to text
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Before the end of the year you could be swapping negative patterns for positive steps forward
INSTEAD OF THIS
Spiraling when they don’t text back
No boundaries (or boundaries you break)
Avoiding hard conversations
Losing yourself in every relationship
Can’t tell anxiety from intuition so you’re left being strung along by people who don’t deserve you
Wasting months on wrong people
YOU’LL HAVE THIS
Tools that calm you down before you act
Boundaries around texting and dates that you actually keep
Exact scripts for the three defining conversation milestones that trip most people up
Maintaining your own life while dating
Ability to distinguish your wound from real information
Walking away from incompatibility within weeks
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The Art Of Going Slow: 4-Week Intensive
Everything included:
⭐ 4 live teaching calls
$800
⭐ 15+ comprehensive worksheets
$400
⭐ Daily regulation practices with video demos
$300
⭐ Live hot seat coaching
$400
⭐ Opportunity to connect with others
$200
⭐ Lifetime access to all materials
Priceless
Total Value: $2,100
Your Investment: $397
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You’ve read this far. You recognize the problem. You know this is what you need.
The question isn’t whether this will work. The question is: are you ready to do the work?
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